Confessions of an ill person


If you looked at me you wouldn’t know I had an incurable disease. I look like everyone else. Ok, maybe not exactly, I’m a

You're ill?? You sure?

You’re ill?? You sure?

little (ok a lot) on the thin side, I’m often covered in bruises from millions of blood tests, and sometimes, if I’m lucky, you’ll spot me sporting a rather trendy hospital bracelet with my name on (in case I forget) and a gown that shows my bright red bum off to the whole world like I’m a baboon. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that I’m not in a wheelchair; I don’t have to walk with crutches; I have all my hair; I have all my limbs; I don’t look a weird colour, pale or sickly; and I don’t have any disfigurements…so to the naked eye and to the world I’m not ill and I’m most definitely not disabled, which you would think would be a good thing right?

Most of the time it is! I am so grateful everyday that I can walk, jump, run, swim, and that I have the freedom to do the things that I want to do without being confined to a wheelchair..and I have to add that I have all the respect in the world for those who aspire to amazing things despite the preconceived limitations of their disabilities (aka ParaOlympians). But just because you can’t see my aliment it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. As a Crohns/Colitis sufferer I don’t want anyone to treat me differently, but I don’t want to have to walk around waving a sign saying “I’m ill…honest!” just so that people will let me into the disabled toilet without shaking their heads and muttering “how disgraceful, how dare that young woman use the disabled loo…there’s nothing wrong with her”, or maybe let me sit down on the bus when I’m obviously about to collapse through the effort of trying to stand up.

So as a long-term sufferer of Crohns/Colitis (still don’t 100% know which one, they’re now leaning towards Colitis) here are my confessions:

Before the op smiling as ever, but seriously ill!!!

Before the op smiling as ever, but seriously ill!!!

I know I’m a positive person. It’s a skill I have moulded from years of crippling pain, disappointment, broken promises and self hate. For most of my life I have lived a lie that has been so bloody convincing that I don’t really know what’s real anymore. If you were to meet me you would see what everyone else sees – a confident, happy person, who never gives up and never lets anything get her down. No matter how much it hurts, no matter how much I want to scream in pain, no matter how bad your horrible judgements because of my skinny frame or endless toilet visits, no matter the blood, injections and fatigue, I still manage to plaster a smile across my face.

You could spend all day with me and never notice that I am holding myself together with a tiny string of energy that is fraying and threatening to snap at any moment. I spend every day as a different person, a determined person, a workaholic, the sort of person who would never let anyone down, who won’t quit until the job is done and who gives everything 110%. I’m like a whirlwind in the office, and I guess my pet hate is lazy people. I never stop, my energy to others seems unrelenting, and my positivity in the face of so many issues seems to be endless. But inside I’m screaming as my body eats itself alive. If you were to look closely maybe you would be able to see the pain in my eyes, perhaps behind my blue eyes everything is empty? Perhaps if you stopped and really looked at me, pushed aside my over-the-top laughter, thick make-up and endless chattering, you would be able to see me my hands twitching with pain from arthritis as I attempt to scribble down an interview, or the way my body twitches as pain rips through my bowel or the deadness in my eyes as I try to cope with the face every morsel of food I ate for the past year has just ended up in the toilet bowl again.

Smiling so much can hurt. Living a lie every day takes a lot of energy and being positive when so many things are quite frankly shit is just draining. I don’t let many people see the real me. I guess I’ve never liked her. To me the real Rachel is ill all the time, she is weak, she is sick and she is not worth bothering with. The real Rachel is the person who crawls into bed and gives in to the pain and the fatigue. She is the side of me who throws up food quicker than it’s cooked. She is the person who is afraid of social events where people will see how little she really eats. She is the person who lives in track suit bottoms and baggy t-shirts, is covered in bruises from endless blood tests. She is the person who knows that feeling well will never really last, that the treatments will never really work and that it’s just a matter of time that my illness will kick off again.

That Rachel is the one I become on the night’s I arrive home alone, she is who I become when I unscrew that positive grin and put it to bed on my nightstand every night.

You could say there are two versions of me. There’s the Rachel that people see in public and then there’s just me, bare, naked and exposed. That’s the person people see when they visit me in hospital covered in wires and trying to hold back the tears. So now you know why I always want you to call ahead if you’re visiting – it’s so I can transform into the better Rachel, you know, that positive person you all know and love. She’s not for me…no, she’s for you.

Well she used to be….now the lines blur. I’ve been living this lie so long I might just be starting to believe that I really am as determined, hopeful and positive as she is every day. 

Why am I confessing all this? I guess it’s because of what happened yesterday…

Yesterday I woke up full of hope, questions and enthusiasm, ready for my meeting with ‘Mr Miracle Hands’ my

TRENDY

TRENDY

life-changing (I may as well say life-saving) surgeon, whose amazing handy-work brought Winnie into the world and banished some of the evil disease that has tormented me for the past 13 years. I was almost excited to see this ‘wonderful’ man, who I hoped was going to be full of answers and solutions to some of the weird problems I have been experiencing since my Ileostomy operation nearly 12-weeks-ago. I guess I thought that he would be able to snap his fingers and every issue would just vanish in a puff of smoke, that he would smile sweetly, say “don’t worry it’s all over, you’ve suffered for long enough and that’s it.. you can live your life now. We will fix you and from this day on your only worries will be whether your bum looks big in an outfit or which weird combination of coffee, milk and syrups to order from Starbucks”. He said some things, but to my disappointment it was nothing along those lines.

I guess I should be grateful, since the operation I have felt better than I have ever felt – well, that is, ever since I can remember. The crippling pain that caused black-outs, screaming ‘kill me now’ in public bathrooms, and left me literally crawling up cubicle walls, is gone. But it has been replaced by something else…something so much further down the scale that most of the time I don’t even notice it, but it’s still more pain than most people could deal with on a daily basis. You see the complications, the infections and the scar bursting open following my life saving operation have left me with more problems than before. I was used to the old problems caused by UC/Crohn’s, but these are new, alien and confusing problems and pains that, honestly, I am finding bloody hard to figure out.

My hope had been the ‘miracle hands’ surgeon was going to have all the answers. My hope had been he was going to say “let’s take out that remaining bit of colon, I should never have left it in, it is far too diseased”. I hadn’t expected him to take it out there and then, but I had hoped it would be soon. When he cocked his head to one side like a sad puppy and said ‘at least six more months’ or ‘possibly never’ due to scar tissue, complications and risks,  I have to admit something inside me died. I think the little flame of hope of living a totally normal life flickered and gradually burnt out. Obviously, me being WELL ME, I didn’t burst into tears or throw the all mighty ‘it’s not fair’ tantrum (believe me I wanted to), I think I made a totally inappropriate joke or laughed. In fact I even carried on doing it when he peeled back my wound dressing to reveal a very sore and oozy patch of skin that was like a scene from Alien, and expressed his horror that I’d managed to put up with such pain in the sweltering heat! I even made a joke when he declared he would have to put a THIRD stoma bag on it to drain the never-ending stream of puss:

ME: (something along the lines of)  “ooh so your adding another tool to my tool belt!!!”  (I’m sure he saw through my little act, I know my mum does (she always has)…

My three bags and some very sore skin

My three bags and some very sore skin

Anyway I couldn’t believe it A THIRD BAG!! I didn’t sign up for this. I signed up for just the one, when I signed that consent form and allowed this man to hack away at me I was under the understanding that their would be no complications. he would simply whip out my bowel, fit me with an ileostomy and that would be that…BUT NO!!! I should have known, I really should, nothing I ever do runs to course…my body screams DRAMA QUEEN!! I even joke to my surgeon that I am the most dramatic patient he has ever had – unfortunately he agrees! I was so desperate not to get another bit of plastic bagging attached to my skin that I wholeheartedly agreed when he said the only other option was to stick a knife in the over-granulated scar tissue and drain out the puss! Anyone passing the room at that point would have thought he was offering me a package holiday by the OH YES, FANTASTIC, PLEASE that was excitedly coming out of my desperate mouth. unfortunately he refused to do that, and I found myself whisked to another room, nurses buzzing around me, sticking one bag after another to my skin in an attempt to find one that wouldn’t make me look like Michelin Man once I had my tshirt back on.

Anyway, back to the surgeon. I quizzed him on everything. Now that they had my large bowel did they finally know what I had..surely they did? The truth was, after looking at the results he still couldn’t tell me 100% if it was UC or Crohn’s. He confirmed the results ‘swayed’ towards UC, but that it looked like they wouldn’t 100% know until they removed the rest of my colon, then it would be a waiting game to see if the disease attacked my small bowel…if so, it was Crohn’s Disease. What a fun game 🙂 I can’t wait to play that one, maybe we should put bets on it!

Hmm hope all this isn't for forever

Hmm hope all this isn’t for forever

By the end of the appointment I had been called brave, tough and a ‘good coper’ – I didn’t feel any of those things. It must have shown as at the end of the appointment, as I was being whisked off to get my third bag plastered to my ever-growing tool belt, the surgeon grabbed me in a big bear hug and held onto me like I was being taken off to die. He told me how brave I was, how well I was looking, and how much I had been to stay so positive despite what I had been through. It was awkward but nice…despite everything that has gone wrong, the wonky epidural, the split-open scar, the infections, I would still, if I had to, trust this man with my life (even if he is a bit touchy-feely and holds my hand during appointments).

And after all this crap what did I do? I didn’t go home and cry did I NOOO!! I went off to the beach with my parents and pretended I was happy as larry about the whole thing…and because I did I had a really nice day. But today as I ring the specialists and surgeons for the 10th time and get “ring the other team” or an answer machine message, as I desperatly try to force them to put me on meds for my remaining colon, which is becoming more and more diseased and painful by the minute, I am feeling desperatly low and upset.

Me smiling at the beach

Me smiling at the beach

I guess I have figured out, finally, that I’m really bloody ill and a quick-fix operation is not going to cure me. I’m frightened. Frightened about what the future holds, about my health and the impact it will have on my life, about future surgery, about more time off work. The truth is that despite my happy face, quick wit and go get ’em attitude in life, underneath it all I am bloody terrified.

And you know what???? That’s ok, I’m allowed my bad days.

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Where’s Winnie at the races, at the seaside and doing ten rounds with Mike Tyson


Before I share any of the crazy adventures me and Winnie (the poo bag) got up to at the weekend, and

Please bid on these stunningly illustrated Disney books :)

Please bid on these stunningly illustrated Disney books 🙂

spill all my inner most thoughts and secrets, I must first ask you a massive favour….PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE bid on the eBay items which we (me and Andy) are flogging following our Bargain Hunt style adventure a couple of weekends ago. If no one bids, not only will I be horrendously out-of-pocket (despite how über glamorous I always look I’m not rolling in cash, mostly because I am a lowly reporter, and I’m addicted to nail varnish and expensive coffee) and lumbered with even more (luxurious) yet pointless items cluttering up my already stuffed to the brim flat, but I will have FAILED, YES FAILED, one of my challenges. Surely you guys (my dedicated readers :)) can’t let that happen 😦 And, if what I fear will happen does indeed come true, I will not even break even let alone raise mountains of cash for Crohns and Colitis UK to help them in their fight to help people understand the true pain of this evil, evil illness and possibly even find a cure!!!

WHY would you not want an amazing MANDY ANNUAL???

WHY would you not want an amazing MANDY ANNUAL???

I am not trying to emotionally blackmail you all (perhaps I am a little) but imagine the SHAME of me failing to sell an item on eBay. It was meant to be one of my simplest challenges, but the fact that no one has bid on the items which I battled exhaustion, hunger and a very hyperactive stoma to source out for you lovely people to buy, is making this challenge the hardest and most demoralising one I have faced so far….So please PLEASE PLEASE put a smile back on my face and bid on my lovely items…trust me you won’t regret it 🙂 Just remember a lot of determination, sweat and (almost) tears went into finding these goodies from those 400+ stalls…you would be raising money for a very good cause, saving me the humiliation of having to post on here that I have failed and sending a giant cheque with the figure £0.00 to an amazing charity…and make a little, very tired and sleep-deprived young lady and schizophrenic stoma bag very happy indeed, and stop her looking like this (pic of me in black and white looking very miserable):

If you don't bid, me, Andy and Winnie will be soo blue and never smile again!!

If you don’t bid, me, Andy and Winnie will be soo blue and never smile again!!

If you want to bid on the amazing items – a vintage Man United book; Stunning 20th C Japanese miniature cup and saucer; Knightrider collector’s item; Winnie the Pooh Book; Disney education and tales album set; Classic Mandy Annual; Sooty Book and a Bronze ornament of a brass player – please click on the links above (the words underlined DOH!!) or the picture (to right) which will take you to the seller’s page!

Anyway, now that the emotional blackmailing is over and done with, I can tell you about Me and Winnie and our rather exciting, exhausting and windswept weekend. Basically what follows is the story of a weekend where Winnie’s non-stop teenage tantrums finally pushed me into the dark world of gambling; Winnie suffered her first panic attack (or it may well have been stage fright) and I learnt a key rule to life with a temperamental stoma – never wear a jumpsuit!!!

So after months of waiting the girly day at the Races finally arrived. On Saturday morning I woke up after another typically restless night feeling exhausted and suffering from such crippling fatigue that I could hardly muster the energy to walk to the bathroom let alone spend a whole day screaming at horses and standing around in six-inch stilettos. All I had wanted, prayed for, begged for, was one decent night’s sleep, so that I wouldn’t wake up looking like a zombie crawling out of a grave with massive bags under my eyes and my hair stuck up like Sonic the Hedgehog…but, alas God obviously had other plans for me, and typically the night before the Races saw me sat bolt up right in bed with my normal skin crawling itchiness, and my poor broken body screaming to sleep while my brain ticked away over every problem, flaw and tiny hang-up, wittering on and on about how Winnie would leak and all the thousands of unnaturally good-looking punters were going to see crap dripping down my dress (pardon my French). I know that seems ridiculous, and the chances of that actually happening where, quite frankly, next to none, but I couldn’t get the image out of my head that I was going to have an accident in a very public place, and that, when it happened I would be stood in a pool of crap directly in front of a large gang of heavily made-up girls who would all laugh and point and shout “Ewh she’s got s**t dripping down her leg…”she is, isn’t she, she’s sh***ing herself” !! or some other horrible comment, involving me and a pile of excrement. All night I sat awake trying to distract myself by reading Clare Bolding’s autobiography, but nothing could shake the image of Winnie deciding to have her first proper paddy in the middle of Chester Racecourse and me, red-faced and humiliated, being escorted out of the paddocks by burly security guards and manhandled into the back of a police car for ‘defecating in a public place’.

Me and my beautiful girlies at Chester Races

Me and my beautiful girlies at Chester Races

On the day I needn’t have worried at all, because Winnie, out of fright or in an attempt to prove that I had seriously misjudged her, decided that she would simply stop working. She pretty much went on strike for the afternoon, and didn’t let a single morsel of food, gas or anything else that could have caused some sort of unpleasant surprise pass through her pink gates. You would think I would have been relived that I wasn’t having to run to the bathroom and back to sort out the growing bulge under my extremely pretty dress – if you haven’t met Winnie yet, you’re in for a treat.. she performs an amazing but humiliating magic trick, transforming me from a very slender size six into a beached whale, which is eight months pregnant with obese triplets…and most amazingly of all she does this magical trick in a blink of an eyelid – I wasn’t at all relieved. In fact, you could say that I was terrified by her new stunt. This was the first time that Winnie had gone on strike and it was pretty damn worrying. From the moment we walked into the racecourse Winnie just decided.. ‘nope, I am not playing this game, I am not going to work, I am going to block-up’, and she did – very effectively I might add. So while my friends sipped horrendously expensive champagne and shouted at their chosen horse to get its butt into gear (ok, not their exact words), I worried and worried about Winnie, constantly prodded her through my dress and, well pretty much spent the whole day panicking about whether there was something seriously (like rush to A&E and slit me open) wrong with her, and through attachment to my body, seriously wrong with me!!

The result of all this worrying is that I must have had a rather quizzical and bemused look on my face for the entire day, something that I blamed on not understanding the betting system, (which is true, I still don’t understand the odds, ranking or returns) and, to all of the thousands of people who saw my grumpy and concerned features, I must have come across as a right moody cow and a proper party pooper.

So anyway, anyway, anyway, back to the morning events. For months I have seriously pined for this amazing perfume which is well out of my measly trainee reporter’s salary price range. Let’s just say that if I wanted to buy it I would have to live off fresh air and baked beans for a couple of weeks – but then again the perfume would cancel out the horrible smelling gas from the student-esk diet!! #lol!! In fact I love the perfume so much that every day since the lovely lady in Debenhams squirted the yummy scent on my wrist I have dragged my exhaus

Awh my amazing gift from my amazing bf

Awh my amazing gift from my amazing bf

ted and broken body all the way to Browns in Chester to spray on Victor &Rolf’s Flowerbomb, just so that I don’t have to fork out the £70 to buy it. I have been doing this daily trip for almost six weeks now. I like to think of it as the  cheapest way to own a perfume….but in the past week or so I have been forced to try other perfumes. You see the staff are not stupid and have started to cotton on to what I am doing, and are now really rather annoyingly hanging around the Victor&Rolf stand and asking me if I need any help with my purchase, forcing me to make up elaborate stories about birthday lists, wedding presents and anniversaries – It was seriously getting to the point where I was going to be shamed into buying the product or be arrested for stealing hundreds of pounds worth of free perfume!! Anyway after waking from his angelic slumber and turning to face the Creature From The Black Lagoon, my lovely boyfriend walked me into town and bought, yes bought me the biggest bottle of Flowerbomb he could find. It was the singular most lovely and romantic gesture, which was totally ruined by the satisfied and knowing look of the saleswoman, whose eyes screamed “Thief Thief Thief” as she scanned the hideously expensive gift through the till. And, as a final act of disdain, she even refused to give me the pretty pink gift bag, instead thrusting the box into a clearance plastic carrier bag, which made us look like we had just been shopping at Poundland, not spent the equivalent of a week’s wages (ok, I’m over-egging this, but you get my point) on a bottle of perfume.

Anyway, after returning back to the flat happy as a Spring chicken with my first ever bottle of ‘real’ perfume – when I say ‘real’ I mean not mixed with water or bought for £10 from an Avon catalogue. Well, I was happy until I realised I had less than two hours to get ready, then I turned into a ranging maniac, racing around the place and basically stressing at my poor boyfriend (bear in mind that he had just spent a horrendous amount of cash on me just to see me smile) and unceremoniously shoving him out of the door so I could jump in the shower and scrub away any morsel of dirt, sweat or anything else minging in an attempt to transform myself from the crazy, sleep deprived madwoman in the mirror into a stunning Princess. It seemed like ‘Mission Impossible’, and it really was. Time raced past as I attempted to tame my wild hair, which I luckily had had cut and coloured the day before so only needed re-blowdrying and straightening, and slather myself with layers of makeup. I lost valuable minutes when Winnie decided to start working while I was changing her, spitting out yesterday’s dinner on my bath matt as I searched frantically for kitchen-towel and realised I had no idea where the dressings for Oscar where. Eventually, after days of consideration I had settled on the black dress, which was, and still is a big deal. I’m not sure if I have already told you (if I have I’m going to tell you all again anyway GROAN) but

Ready for the Races - THE DRESS

Ready for the Races – THE DRESS

I bought THE DRESS at Warehouse (my favourite shop, but can only afford, well justify, buying things in the sale) before I knew I was going to have my operation. At the time buying the dress was a big risk as: a) I committed the cardinal sin of not trying it on; b) it was basically backless so I wouldn’t be able to wear a bra; and c) it was long, and before my op I never, literally never wore dresses past my knee. THE DRESS is daring and well totally glamourous….I bought it because I loved it, and when, on the painful afternoon following my operation I bit the bullet and bagged up all the clothes I knew I would never be able to wear again due to the birth of Winnie, it almost ended up in the charity shop bag, but was saved only because I decided to keep it in the hope that one very special day I would be daring enough to at least try it on in the comfort of my own home. So imagine my surprise on Saturday when I put on THE DRESS and it fitted perfectly, in fact if you have to be picky you could say that it was a tad on the big size for my tinie post surgery frame. I was ecstatic and decided straight away that if I didn’t wear this dress to the races I would not only regret it, but I would most probably never find another moment to wear it again in my whole life. I owed it to the dress 🙂 I looked fabulous, in fact you couldn’t see Winnie at all! I was amazed…you would have to look really really close to spot the tell-tale creases of the over-lapping bags, but really you couldn’t see her at all 🙂 RESULT!!! One thing I had totally forgotten in a typical me way was that although it was getting rather warm outside it might get nippy later, and, with the open back and all I wouldn’t be wearing a bra…yes, you’ve guessed it, I forgot to get the nipple covers. WHOOPS!! So after all that trying to disguise Winnie I undoubtably drew attention to myself by having rock hard nipples sticking out through my stunningly shear dress as the wind picked up during the last race!! EEK!!

Dreaming of winning big!!

Dreaming of winning big!!

Anyway the day was gloriously hot, and despite ending up with a rather odd suntan due to the criss-cross style of my dress 🙂 it was a perfect day to join the flocks of punters tottering in their ridiculously high high-heels to Chester Racecourse. Despite Winnie’s protest I had a fantastic time, I didn’t win, but there again I didn’t bet anything that in theory I couldn’t afford to lose, so I would have never won big. I had a few frustrating moments, such as when I was determined to bet on one horse but changed my mind at the very last-minute, and, you guessed it folks, that horse won, while mine may aswell have had two legs as it came tripping over the finishing line what felt like a year after all the others were back tucked in the stables. Well I suppose I did win twice, but that was when me and two of my mates decided to club together £2 each (ooh last of the big spenders) to put a bet on three of the horses, and as there were only four in the race we won….well I say we won, we got our £2 each back and an extra £4 on both occasions – which meant my total winnings for a hard day at the Races equated to a grand £2.60 – not even enough for a glass of water!!!

After the races my feet felt like they were literally going to fall off. Having not really walked in high-heels since before my operation a whole day standing in the baking heat wearing extremely pretty, but very uncomfortable glittery shoes, had left my feet screaming for my peppermint cream and the safety and snugness of my pink fluffy slippers. And I wasn’t the only one who felt like my feet were going to snap in two. So, head hung in disappointment I staggered back home, totally gutted that I for once felt well (well not really, but better than normal) enough to hit the town and experience my first Races drink in the city, but was being let down by my stupid and treacherous feet. All I had wanted to do since the start of the day

Me and my friend with the backs of our dresses

Me and my friend with the backs of our dresses

was to go to a new bar in Chester called The Church – basically an old derelict church which had been transformed into a luxury bar and restaurant but still had all the original features – and drink a glass of champagne, to basically say, I DID IT…I MADE IT THROUGH ALL THIS HELLISH CRAP!!! But it seems no one else really wanted to do that, and around half an hour later I found myself back at the flat wearing my trusty nightie and attempting to wipe the layers of makeup off my face. I was gutted, I had been made to do the sensible thing, and it was a total anticlimax…I felt cheated of my celebratory return to the night-life scene and like I was being forced to admit I was still to sick to be my fun, sexy, 20-something-self!

And if that wasn’t unfair enough, the moment I peeled off my dress Winnie decided she was abandoning her strike. In fact she did it with such gusto that I spent the rest of the evening racing backwards and forwards to the toilet – and to make sure I was reminded he was there Oscar threw in a few paddies just for good measure! Despite only having two small, and horrendously expensive glasses of wine, (oh and a glass of race’s champagne kindly donated to my experience by my friend, SSSSH don’t tell), I spent the entire evening feeling like I had been hit, and then reversed over by a bus carrying horrendously obese people to fat camp. I mean it really was unfair!! It was a night filled with endless nausea, sweating, and gurgling and groaning from places I didn’t know existed, and to top it all off all the other hardcore Racegoers where partying hard into the early hours of the morning almost right outside my door, not helping the unrelenting insomnia by rubbing it in my face that they were having an amazing time while sensible me was curled up in a ball of agony wishing I would die.

Home and upset

Home and upset

The next morning I woke up looking like hell, a common occurence these days (as you can see), and feeling like I had done 10 rounds with Mike Tyson in the few hours of sleep I had managed to grab. It literally felt like an elephant had walked into my room and sat on my chest in the middle of the night. I could hardly stand up straight as I raced to the bathroom to empty Winnie who was, as per usual, so full she was on the brink of causing a nuclear poop explosion in my pretty bedroom. As I was trying to sort myself out and make myself look slightly human, changing Winnie after Oscar bizarrely managed to fill up with soapy water while I was having a shower PANIC STATIONS PEOPLE!!! when Andy arrived to take me to his house for a relaxing day reading and starting to learn Francias (which I hope is French for French #lol). Now at this point, taking into account that Winnie was obviously in a foul mood so I would undoubtably be needing to pop to the loo every 5 minutes to empty her, I have literally no idea why I thought “ooh, today would be a good day to wear my new jumpsuit”. Yes people a jumpsuit, you know the outfit that you have to literally spend half-an-hour undoing to have a pee. It is the straightjacket of the fashion world – even Houdini himself would struggle to get out of a jumpsuit in a bathroom related emergency.

Me sooo fashionable...sooo the wrong choice

Me sooo fashionable…sooo the wrong choice

To make matters worse, when we got out to the car we decided (yes, for argument’s sake I’m going to say it was a joint decision) that we weren’t going to spend the day lazing around the house in a hung over style state, scoffing our faces and watching re-runs of The Vicar of Dibley etc…instead we were going to drive around 2 hours to the seaside in Wales. This idea was put forward by Andy, and because I couldn’t think of anything better to do, and the weather seemed glorious in Chester and I assumed it would be the same in Wales, I agreed. BIG MISTAKE!! Firstly, we all know how I feel about car journeys, and how the state of Britain’s roads make me feel like I have just ridden a camel over a rocky mountain range, so while the two-hour car journey offered up some breathtaking views of the Welsh countryside as we passed through Snowdonia, I spent the majority of it curled up in a ball almost crying through pain and getting increasingly angry that the silly mountain ranges were making my phone signal die and I could no longer Tweet my pain to everyone in the world. And, secondly, I could not have been more wrong about the weather. We turned up at the quaint seaside village dressed in summer clothes, with not a jacket, or waterproof between us, to find we had left the Summer weather behind in Cheshire and here we were faced with a typical British summer day, with nippy winds that tore through my thin playsuit and left Winnie shaking to  the core. I must have looked  right idiot as most people were quite rightly dressed for an autumnal day, wearing parkas and jackets, while I was wearing floral jumpsuit and a demin jacket, and to top it off I was wearing my rock star shades – which ended up not being a ridiculous as they looked as they saved my eyes from being filled with the sand which sandblasted us whenever we dared to walk too close to the sand.

Anyway we managed to find a restaurant, where we had the normal issues of waiters and chefs struggling with my diet and I ended up making up my own odd sounding meal which was surprisingly ok. I battled with my playsuit again and again as Winnie filled-up faster than I was able to cope with!! In fact I am almost sure that she was doing it in the hope that someone would walk in on me in the tiny, fly infested toilet, with my playsuit round my ankles exposing my bare breasts to the world, as yes, because of my painful scar I wasn’t wearing a bra!!

Very windy and sandblasted

Very windy and sandblasted

It was a lovely little town and we had a lovely time, but due to the weather and my terrible fashion blunder we must have started the drive back just under 2 hours after we arrived! Poor Andy, driving two hours with me whining the whole way, to enjoy a mediocre meal and getting sandblasted and then being forced to drive another 2 hours back home…luckily for him I slept the whole way back and woke up with a stiff neck and feeling grumpy and disoriented.

So what have I learnt from this experience…NEVER WEAR A ONSIE OR PLAYSUIT WHEN STOMA IS ACTING UP, AND ALWAYS TAKE A JACKET!!